In numerous studies, jerks are, by their own admission, less relationship-oriented, friendly, forgiving, trusting, helpful, warm, caring, cooperative, and sympathetic than non-jerks—precisely the opposite of the kind, loving, loyal heart women in 37 cultures and countries say they absolutely require in a mate.Jerks are less well-liked, they have more stress, and they have less happy lives.
The Money The reason girls love status is the same one women do: In study after study, it’s associated with a man’s ability to provide and protect. Across a series of studies, the “jerk perk” is worth about $10k a year on average, or 18% more than more agreeable male peers.
And jocks are not always known for throwing their weight around in the kindest possible ways.
Unconvinced of his romantic potential, I invited him over for soup, less a date than a get-together with an old friend.
From the moment he walked in, I felt like he'd been sitting in my living room forever.
I thought our fling was the start of a relationship; he thought it was a fling, period. I would fall for a brilliant guy with an irresistible smile who never quite fell for me but who possessed all the qualities I liked in a man: a sense of humor, certified smarts, smoldering looks.
Each time, these men—dashing chefs, moody architects—would give me just enough attention to keep me in their narcissistic orbit.
On our second date, we had a quiet dinner at a bistro.
On our third, he told me he was only interested in a committed relationship. But even though it was what I'd always said I wanted, the word monogamy sounded a lot like monotonous. He used to own a recording studio and now had a less-exciting gig as a construction manager.
And studies show that very few men want to play the field all their lives; men and women alike want lasting, true love.